Extraordinary Dreams
Your Life is Waiting! If Not Now, When?
Parents and Competence
If you want a place in the sun, you must leave the shade of the family tree.–Osage Saying
Cause and Effect. Direct connections. Parenting and our lives as adults. What is it that our parents do in overparenting and underparenting that can cause us to lose our motivation to be effective people in our lives? Overparenting and controlling our behavior so tightly that they try to make us extentions of them, builds great resistance into us when it comes to doing things we are told to do, even when it is things like simple “to do” lists we make for ourselves and it is “us” doing the telling. I can create the possibility of abandoning “hating being told what to do” when I am the one telling me what to do.
Underparenting, from neglectful and/or abusive parents forces us to panic – perhaps. To want to assert ourselves, and to not have the confidence in our own abilities because we have never had any support in our abilities, no faith in taking a stand. Just expectations that we would not be an embarressment.
I do not want to be ineffective in my own doing. Or resist my own lists. I have a new truth. The possibility I am creating for myself and my life is that I can move forward confidently toward my goals without demand resistance because no one is demanding anything. I am creating the possibility of creating.
Stretching. Inside. Wow, there is a lot of room in here when I am in here by myself!
Raise your energy by changing your thoughts
Thoughts. The noise that goes on in our head, sometimes productive musing, sometimes – dark thoughts from the past, haunting us.
Every thought you have affects your life. Either it keeps you in the moment, focused and powerful or it drains your energy and drags you backwards. You have the ability to shift your thinking and cause those unproductive, dark thoughts to change into powerful thoughts that raise and strengthen your energy.
With renewed energy comes flow in the present moment.
The Shift.
When you find yourself in the midst of unproductive, dark thinking – Stop for a moment and ask yourself a question. Is this line of thought what is best for me? The answer of course is no. At that moment, you have stopped the cycling down of your energy and made a commitment to being your best self. Step forward with an empowering thought about where you are, what you are doing, or where you are heading. Get back in the flow.
Share of The Day (SOTD)
Our Deepest Fears
Our deepest fear is not…
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people
will not feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not in just some of us; it is in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson , in Return to Love(often mis-attributed to Nelson Mandela who, contrary to internet legend, did not use the quote in his inaugural address.)