Our Environment is Key

Each February I wait, somewhat impatiently, for the first bulbs to push through heralding the arrival of spring. It is a time of transition. The ground that we carefully dug, fertilized, and planted yields the fruit of our labors. Goal setting works in much the same way.

When we set goals, and map out the steps to accomplish them, we are investing in results that are going to happen down the road. The results will come. With patience, feeding, and providing the environment that is necessary for fruition to take place. The right environment is the key to successful fruition, whether it be our goals or the plants we place in our gardens or pots. Just as planting Crocus bulbs in the Sahara is not likely to yield beautiful flowers, so too planting your success in an environment filled with negativity and clutter is not likely to yield the bumper crop you were expecting.

Once our goals, have been written down and a course set to accomplish them – work on your environment. Make sure that you are setting yourself up for success. Toss out the clutter. Clean the rooms, scrubbing all the surfaces if this is necessary. Perhaps repainting is necessary. Don’t freak out if you need a change of decor and have little or no money. Money is not an obstacle. Consider thrift shops, ethnic stores, craigslist.org, FreeCycle, and other places to get things that are new to you at no cost or low cost. Use a little elbow grease. If you are a renter and you have been in the same place for some time, ask your landlord if they will supply paint and painting tools if you do the painting. Think of your home environment as your cocoon. It is nourishing you and keeping you safe as you grow into your ‘real’ self.

Cleaning and altering the environment is to be taken both literally and figuratively. Work on eliminating all of the things in your physical, mental, and emotional surroundings that do not support your dream. There may be people who need to go. Be okay with letting them go. More friends will come along, I can promise you this – as you change both internally and externally, you will want to be around different people and different people will want to be around you. As you let the negative people go, it is okay if you are alone for a while. Quality time alone is a positive environment to work on your own dreams. If being alone makes you feel anxious, ask yourself why you don’t believe you are enough. Who told you that you were not enough? You are enough. You are beautiful just as you are. You are here, with a message to the world that only you can share.

Optimizing One’s Health – 8 Simple Things

Having thought long and hard about my own physical well-being, I have come up with some principles that I believe are necessary for optimum health.

1. Breathe deeply – every day spend some time in a comfortable place doing some deep breathing.  When you find yourself sitting at your desk daydreaming about a nap – sit up straight and take 10 or 15 slow deep breathes. Oxygen is an absolute necessity for good health. It keeps our brain alert, energizes our cells for their regeneration and it assists in fat burning. I put forth the thesis that the main reason so many of us are over weight is that we do not breathe well. We suffer from chronic fatigue at the cellular level.

2. Choose as many of the foods you eat in their natural state. A potato should look like a potato not like dried, powdered, flakes. An apple should look like a fresh piece of fruit not like a “fruit roll-up,” and so on. If we eat food as close as possible to its natural state, we get the most benefit from it. Our bodies are organic, living things and so should what we eat be organic, natural things. I really believe that a lot of obesity comes from our bodies not knowing how to digest a large percentage of the processed food we put into it.

3. Get out and move. Not everyone is a track star, not everyone wants to or can work out in a gym each day. But the majority of us can do exercise of some sort even if its nothing more than taking a simple walk each day. I know what it is like to have physical limitations – sore joints, arthritis, and a back injury; however, I also know that all of these things are made better by getting exercise and getting your weight under control if you have weight issues. If all you can do is get dressed, walk out your front door and down to the corner and back – do it! You will feel a huge sense of accomplishment for having done so. If you do that simple thing everyday, eventually you can walk around the block, then a few blocks, then a half-mile, then a mile and so on. If you are so obese that you cannot get up out of the chair – there are programs such as “sit and be fit” that can help you start doing exercises right where you sit. Doing even this simple movement can help your body in ways you cannot imagine.

4. Sleep regular hours. I cannot stress this one enough. Sleep affects our memory, our physical stamina, our reaction times, our body’s ability to heal and to digest food. Rest is a necessary part of good health. The findings of a recent study show that the average American gets far less sleep then they need. This really has a negative impact on quality of life. If you do not have the time to get 8 hours of sleep a night, you have too many activities on your calendar. It is time to ask yourself why you are running a rat race for a life. The only thing an overbooked calendar is good for is beginning the cycle of burnout and chemical or alcohol abuse. Why do that to yourself? Clear your calendar and make time for the things that really matter: your relationships, dinner at a table with your whole family, conversation with your partner or spouse, time with your kids, time in the relaxed atmosphere of home with friends. When people are near death, they often regret all the “real stuff” of life that they missed by attending clubs, meetings, games, working late, hanging out at bars, etc. Why not arrange your life so you do not have regrets about what you did while you were here?

5. Eliminate as much Refined Sugar and Flour products from your diet as possible. No one is saying “NO” to sweets. What I am saying is try using honey, molasses or other organic none refined sugars where you can. They are far easier for your body to process, and will not cause fast spikes in blood sugar. Consider your food choices that contain refined flour wisely. Limit them as much as possible. If you want to eat bread, I suggest organic “sprouted wheat” bread that is flour free; it is a whole food that is good for your body.

6. Spend some time in the produce aisle, if you see something that looks interesting that you are not sure how to prepare ask the produce person for some suggestions. Or just purchase the fruit or vegetable and look it up online when you get home!

7. Water. “The human body is approximately 70-80% water by weight, with 99.5% of all molecules containing water. Research has revealed that our brain is 74% water, our bloodstream 83%, kidneys are 82%, muscles 75%, and even bones are comprised of 22% water. Water is the delivery system that carries nutrients to the cells, maintains energy production, and removes toxic wastes from the body. Water is the most basic and important biological factor sustaining living organisms. Life as we know it originated in water and cannot exist without it. Biological processes including circulation, digestion, absorption, and excretion depend on water to function properly. Water is the foundation of the blood, lymphatic system, healthy skin, and muscles, while it also regulates body temperature and lubricates the joints and internal organs. Drinking quantities of water can greatly ease the pain of degenerative diseases. As you mature, it is vital to pay attention to water consumption. By the age of 65, there is a 10-15% loss in cellular water capacity. Water acts as chemical messengers carrying vital elements such as oxygen, hormones, and minerals to all parts of the body. Many health problems can be significantly alleviated by increasing water intake. Dehydration is often the root cause of many illnesses and can actually produce pain in the body, resulting in symptoms that are misleading, mimicking particular disorders that can be quickly and easily remedied by the most basic of life giving substances – water.”
“You’re not sick – you’re thirsty!” From “Your Body’s Many Cries for Water” by Dr. F. Batmanghelidj, M.D.

There is nothing I can add to that.

8. Laughter. It has been said, “Laughter is the Best Medicine.” Short of Morphine, nothing works better at alleviating pain than laughter does. Over the years, there have been many studies done that show that a lot of laughter each day helps the body heal and regenerate faster. The fabulous thing about laughter is that it does not matter what the source of inspiration is: cartoons, old comedy programs, funny stories, reading a joke book, or telling funny stories with friends. They all work equally well at reducing tension, increasing our oxygen levels and changing our mood.

I wish you the best of good health on your journey through life. Please write to me and let me know what is working for you!

The Morning Breeze

The morning breeze has secrets to tell you,don’t go back to sleep.
~ Rumi

How often do you sleep through what God, Universal Spirit – call it what you will, is saying to you?

How often are you to busy to hear Spirit?

How stiffled is your life because you are doing it the hard way?

The societal way? The path that is called “effort?”

How much of your life is lived in “inspiration”? In-spirit…

What if money didn’t matter?

What if owning things didn’t matter?

What if the universe provided all the right company you need to be connected in your perfect world?

What if it isn’t about sex and partners?  Food or alcohol or drugs?  Work or Money?

What if it is about peace?

What if it is about Joy?

What if it is about Gratitude?

What if you are ignoring the still quiet voice of the Spirit that can release you into your perfect life – because you are too busy making plans, attending meetings, trying to get laid?

What if your life is evolving the way it is because you are attracting all the things you don’t want – because all of your focus is on what you don’t want?

What if you don’t know how to hear your own native inspiration – your own purpose for being here?

The Morning Breeze has secrets to tell you,don’t go back to sleep.
~ Rumi

Life is Filled With Powerful Intentions

In each moment we have the opportunity to choose what our intentions are, what our actions are, and what our results are going to be.

Most people make their choices moment by moment unconsciously. They have an unconscious belief that by doing this they somehow negate their personal responsibility for their life, but this is not so. You can listen to their story, and to their reasons – but at the end of it all – they are responsible for their “truth.”

Everyone is responsible for what they create in life; no one gets out of this responsibility. Many people have been lead to believe that they are the victims of life. They become victims in life by failing to make intentional choices about their life. No one can victimize you without your permission. If you find yourself being a victim, it is time to ask yourself what you are getting out of being a victim. If you are a victim, it is because there is something in “victim-hood” that you believe serves you.

No one is served by being a victim. It is a lie straight out of unconsciousness. I bet you thought I was going to say Hell. They are interchangeable you know. Hell is being unconscious. It is being separate from God, from universal spirit, call it what you will. However, who moved? God has never moved. Universal spirit does nothing but generate love, and knowledge – constantly – running like a large engine, pumping it out at you, for you, through you … it is your source.

Your life is filled with your powerful intentions. By the choices you make, whether you want to choose or not.  Recognize that not choosing – is making a choice. You cannot escape the truth – you can only pretend to be ignorant of it. You are where you are today, you are who you are today, and you will have the tomorrow of your choosing – because of your choices. There is nothing else.

Communication

All communication consists of two components. Information out and Information in. Or speaking and listening. Most people seem to have a fair grasp of speaking.

There are two basic types of listening: Listening with the intent to respond and listening with the intent to understand.

Listening with the intent to respond generally leads to interruption.

The best listening happens in two phases:
     Phase one is Listening to understand.
     Phase two is Listening to respond.

In order to become successful at phase one – one must become comfortable with silence.

A pause in conversation is not an invitation to speak. A pause in conversation is an invitation to think. When it is clear that the person speaking is finished expressing their thought, it is still not your opportunity to respond. It is your opportunity to consider their words and what you understood them to say. Once it is clear that you heard them, then it is time to respond to what has been said.

This is where the saying “The wise man listens twice as much as he speaks” comes from.

Creating with Intention

Have you ever really thought about the difference between having a fulfilling life and having an Impressive lifestyle?

It is said that a great life is attractive and a lifestyle is seductive. A life is based on you and a lifestyle is based on the externals of your life.

A fulfilling life gives you a sense of positive well-being consistently, a lifestyle gives you momentary feelings of gratification for what you have to consume.

If your life is not supporting your emotionally, you are losing parts of yourself along the way to acquiring your lifestyle. You may be losing your peace of mind, your quality time with family or friends, your sense of humor because you are over stressed and not getting adequate rest, and many, many other similar things that actually steal life from you. The emotional cost is a much higher price to pay then the financial cost of living a simpler life.

A great many people in the world today are so concerned with living an impressive lifestyle that they forget to create a fulfilling life.  When this happens, people are so connected to the future that they are not present to where they are, and attraction works in the present – not in the future.

What are you creating? What are you attracting? When we spend our energy on gathering things to create an impressive lifestyle, we actually become less attractive to the things that fulfill our spirit. Does this mean that something is wrong with material possessions? Not at all. What it does mean is that people are less attracted to participating in life with people who are seduced by things. This is not because of jealousy or other negative energy or emotions, it is because it causes the seduced person to move forward as if they have need of no real connections, no real relationships – just a supporting cast to help them gather things, take care of things, maintain things or to show their things to.

Have you identified the people in your life that add to the quality of your life and bring you real pleasure? Do you know who the people are in your life that steal your energy, maintain only shallow relationships with you (very high maintenance by the way), or who only contact you when they need something from you?  Why are you keeping them around?  What would happen if you let them go?

The freedom that this has brought to my life is HUGE. I sleep better because I do not have many interrupted late nights now. This has reduced my stress significantly. It has also taught me to not let people into my life that I do not really feel an interesting connection or spark with. The people in my life now are people who are in life to play full out. They want to enjoy the journey. They want to give of themselves authentically. They all have compelling visions that pull them forward in life. When we get together, there is always stimulating conversation and laughter. A lot of laughter.

At the end of it all, when our lives are through –  what will be important is not the stuff you leave behind but the love you leave behind.

The world works on the principles of attraction. We attract or repel things to our lives. Our outer world is a direct reflection of the state of our inner world.

The most attractive thing in the world is people who enjoy themselves. From that point of personal enjoyment, one can attract whatever they need in life.

Personal Declarations

Personal Declarations of intentions or independence.

Have you ever thought about writing your personal declaration of intentions or a declaration of independence?

This is something more than a personal mission statement, although a personal mission statement is a good place to start.

A personal declaration is putting your word out into the world powerfully. Declaring how you are going to experience “being” in the world.

I have a leather bound journal that I use just for this purpose. I began this journal at a moment in the year two thousand when some rather personally cataclysmic events took place in my life.

This was the Personal Declaration of Independence I wrote at that time:

I have dared to dream a life of my own creating. I have taught myself; will teach myself; will choose my battles with integrity to create my own paradise.

Only I can hear the call of the passionate dream I desire to live.

Only I can answer that call, and answer I will.

It is in the doing that we become all that we believe ourselves to be.

From my Journal:

The Possibilities that I am creating for my life and myself are:
“Being a catalyst for personal transformation by assisting people in achieving extraordinary results in their lives.”

My values:
“Integrity, Serenity, Abundance, toleration-free living, radical self-care, being present, contributing to the creation of a self-responsible planet, manifesting extraordinary dreams.”

My current powerful intention:
“To live an expansive and empowering life, where I, and the people who play with me in the game of life, are appreciated, recognized, rewarded, and open to unlimited possibilities.”

What are you up to in life? What are you intending? I would love to know!

Expectations – Yours and Others

Expectation: noun 1. When you expect something to happen. 2. When you expect good things. 3. When you expect someone to do something or to arrive.

Expectations seem to run our lives. Generally, it is the expectations that society, our family, our spouse, our children, or our boss has for us that runs our life and makes us angry, shut down, uninspired and disappointed.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Have you ever taken some time to look at your own life?  Have you taken a personal inventory of where you are now, and where you want to be and then created a list of expectations for yourself?”

Wait a minute. I am supposed to have my own expectations for my life?  Wow. I need to think about that. I am so busy with the day to day grind; I think my ‘real’ life got lost somewhere a long the way.

“When we focus only on what others are expecting of us, those are the only things we ever get done. We don’t have time to do the things we expect for ourselves. Eventually, we sell out our own dreams and desires completely. This is no way to live our lives.

What we need to do, all of us, is take some time to listen to our own inner voice and figure out what it is we need to create for ourselves so that we can contribute fully, be content and perhaps even be happy in this life. It is achieving our expectations for ourselves that gives us meaning, not the expectations that others have for us that we complete out of obligation.

We should be showing up to life with a large smile on our face each day, not the look of dread.

So, what expectations do you have for yourself?

Seeing the Beauty in Everything

As we come to live more in the present moment, and less in the past or the future, we can begin to see the beauty and perfection in everything and everyone around us. We can see it in ourselves for perhaps the first time. Ironic, isn’t it; since we have always been in our right place.

Take a few minutes now and look around you. Not with critical eyes, but with the eyes of love; knowing that you have created all that you see around you. Everything you see is the manifestation of the choices you have made about your life. In that regard they are perfect, for they are the perfect reflection of where you were when you made those choices. If you find that your environment no longer supports you, your ideas, your beliefs, your story, your work, your interests or passions – take a deep breathe and make a new choice, realizing that you must let something go to make space for the new manifestations in your life.

Life is a cycle. As we breathe in and out, it is important to know that we manifest what we think about. Let yourself relax in the holy instant that is now, and create a world for yourself that contains more love, more joy, more experiencing the present moment than you ever dared dream of before.

Intentions

Intention. Intention is a word that is filled with all the creative power in the universe. It embodies all that we desire, and all that we manifest. It is also the compass by which we can measure our manifestations. Our intentions are our plans to do or have some particular thing or BE some particular way. Intentions are our plan or purposeful way of being; our tool of creativity and manifestation.

When we step back and look around us, at the life that we are living – we can look at what we are manifesting and compare the results we have achieved with our intentions. Many people “wake up” one day and find that their life is not what they expected it to be. Disappointment runs over them like an out of control freight train. The question we must ask when this happens is “what were your intentions?” “What did you intend to have your life be?” “What did you do to make that happen?”

Too often, we find that there were not any intentions. There were some vague desires, but life was left to take care of itself. This happens because we are taught in public school how to “get by” or to “sustain.”  We are taught to “maintain” not how to create or succeed. For example, in school when a test was announced what was the first question that someone in the classroom asked? How many chapters will it cover? Chapters 10 through 13. Is that including 13 or up to 13? Because heaven help us if we should read more than we need to prepare for the exam, all that extra knowledge would be a waste of time or perhaps even fatal.

Intentions are powerful. The language of intentions is the very language of our soul’s desire to play big in life. When we “intend” something, we are setting the power of the entire universe in motion to assist us in achieving our desired outcome. We are creating all the right situations, because we will be right for the opportunities.

What are your intentions?